COPING WITH CRITICISM
April 30, 2009 by
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One of the areas that people with low self-esteem have greatest difficulty with is criticism – giving as well as receiving it. Both can be extraordinarily difficult. In fact some individuals are absolutely demolished by criticism, but it’s something we cannot avoid.
Now, criticism is often unfair – and when it is we need to counter it by putting our own case succinctly and calmly. But some criticism is justified – and when we’re sensible we can learn from it.
Often when we’re criticized, we’re so hurt that we start excusing ourselves and rebutting what’s being said without really listening to it.
A mature, self-possessed person listens to criticism without interrupting. If there are aspects to the criticism that are valid, just begins by agreeing with those points. If you
Become the person you can be
April 25, 2009 by
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Your self-esteem is like a star at night that shines brightest when it is the darkest. It is your inner light that burns brightly and freely no matter what is happening around you. A Zen saying reminds us:
SELF-NURTURING
April 21, 2009 by
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Rebutting your critical inner voice is an important step, but it is not enough. Since our self-esteem is in part due to how others have treated us in the past, the second step to more healthy self-esteem is to begin to treat yourself as a worthwhile person.
Start to challenge past negative experiences or messages by nurturing and caring for yourself in ways that show that you are valuable, competent, deserving and lovable. There are several components to self-nurturing:
First and foremost, practice basic self-care. Get enough sleep, eat in a healthy fashion, get regular exercise, practice good hygiene, and so forth. A healthy mind is dependent on a healthy body. When you take care of the outside, it is natural that taking care of the inside will follow.
You should plan fun and relaxing things for yourself. You could go to a movie, take a nap, get a massage, plant a garden, buy a pet, or learn to meditate-whatever you enjoy. Try new things to help you pamper yourself. This author has delved into self-hypnosis through online, downloadable sessions at selfhypnosis.com. They work wonders for me! You may want to look at it yourself!
Reward yourself for your accomplishments
